If the inmate is being charged for phone calls then why when he calls the first thing I have to do is push one to accept the charges. Does this mean we are both being charged for the same call? Thank you very much for your time.

The short answer is "no", both are not being charged for the same call. You will need to listen carefully to the recording as the inmate MAY be calling "collect" (where you would accept the charges). But, mostly the recording is an warning of sorts letting the recipient know the call is coming from a prison or jail and asking if you want to "accept the call".  Sign up for the InmateAid Discount Telephone Service - when they call, it's always a local call at the lowest rate.