Your inmate might be deep in his feelings. He's looking an amount of time that is making him think that the future with you is limited, that you might leave him anyway. Give it some time (as he suggests) and then try again in a few weeks, maybe send him a magazine subscription that would have him thinking about "who sent it" every time he gets an issue?

No one can see who they are calling, visiting, texting or receiving money or mail from, they are provided with the same privacy on the inside as you are on the outside

Inmates go through a period of despair upon being incarcerated. Their wave of emotions spans from sadness to anger, to blaming others before reality hits them in the face that they are locked up because of actions taken by themselves. Keep in touch for a while longer and see if things improve. Our take is that they will improve and ultimately the kindness you've shown will pay dividends in their behavior later in their sentence.

Come on!! Are you serious?!?! You sound pathetic. If you are worried that your inmate is cheating on you while in prison, you need to discontinue all contact and move on with your life. If your imagination has your inmate having sex with the staff, you are mistaken. If a staff member has sex with an inmate, they become the prisoner (for about 5-8 years, it's called rape when sex with an inmate is involved).

If you want to divorce your inmate/spouse, being locked up for ten years is enough of a reason that a judge will not get in the way

probably not and if the domestic violence charge is about you, you might take this opportunity to run for the hills. there are plenty of men out there that will not do this to you. take your freedom back!

Moral support cant buy snacks at the commissary. So, my choice would be the financial support (within reason) because that says a lot more than a moral support speech and by its very nature shows "moral support" at the same time.

We are not familiar with a legal filing costing $1, maybe it's true but it doesn't seem like you would get much help for one dollar. My advice would be to investigate the process in your county. You might be able to do this pro se (represent yourself), Google the information and write up the motion yourself. That would cost less than one dollar (although there is probably a fee to file with the county).

You know what you need to do. Trust your internal voice. There are plenty of other opportunities for love out there in this big world, you just have to have the courage to go out and see. 

You cannot get any information from the prison regarding an inmate's visiting list, phone list or who puts money on their books. The inmate's privacy is protected completely. If you suspect that this is still happening, it probably is.