Do not stop trying. Letters and pictures are an easy and inexpensive way to keep the faith. Do it for the children for sure.

No. The inmates are entitled to privacy in prison too. If you think he is calling someone, you know him better than anyone, he probably is.

Respect and disrespect are personal issues. Some people would find things wrong that others do not. Would you like it if they did it to you? Society judges too harshly sometimes anyway.

There is no way to find out, the information even for inmates is completely private. Only the inmate and the administration knows who sends money, sends mail, phone call list and visitation list.

Very few relationships make it past 18 months to be totally honest. There are inmates whose girlfriends came to visitation every week, talked on the phone every day, the girlfriend sent money, magazines, books, and the minute they got out they ran, ran, ran. Not sure what the deal is there, but for some reason most ex-inmates have zero loyalty. They get out and just don't want to be tied down to anything. We are not trying to upset you

Yes, I had a couple of pen pals that rode out my bid with me. One I met in the visiting room (she was visiting another inmate) where we had a physical attraction. That penpal seemed more real to me, I made greater efforts to let myself be more open than the one that just started writing me (from a news account of my trial). Neither went beyond the intimate letters and occasional phone calls. They bought me magazines and

Yes, we have more than one person write. When you're locked up you have nothing but free time. To us, the more letters, the better. For calls, in federal inmates may only talk 300 minutes per month (400 minutes in Nov. and Dec.), state inmates can talk all day if they have the funds on their account. Many penpals will send money so that the inmate will call them. Some do, some don't We don't mean to play mind games,

You might be able to get away with a county visit if their vetting procedures are not as strict. We don't know the facility you are going to, so we cannot offer anything further. If you are not permitted to visit in the prison, why would they let you visit in the county jail? Unless they don't know why you are being denied, you could try and see what happens.

Your inmate is granted privacy regarding their visitation and telephone list as will as their inmate trust fund account. we would advise you to use your instinct regarding your relationship with this inmate. If you are concerned with who your inmate calls or who is on your inmate's visitation list you will lose control of your own situation. Your inmate is in prison, you are on the outside; if they are seeing or speaking with other women, you need to

The best thing I learned was that i never want to go back. I also learned about the things in my personality that led to getting in trouble in the first place. There are no short cuts in life. If you make a practice of taking short cuts to achieve something, there's going to be a time where it catches up. That is when you realize you've gone too far. Things have to change in your thinking before you get