Of course you should be concerned and it is to be expected, from both your perspectives. He is wondering what you are doing, thinks the worst even if you have never given an inclination that you'd stray. It's natural, but it will take a Herculean effort on both of your parts to keep it going. Give him his space for a bit, stop peppering him with questions. He's in prison, he's getting punished - do not pile on with your

you are welcome!! good luck :)

no, inmates are entitled to privacy too

Being in a relationship with someone you can't actually BE in a relationship with is a maddening process that rarely makes it through the bid if it's more than a few years. The inmate has a vivid imagination of what you are (might) doing while he's locked up (even if you haven't even been tempted). That makes him unjustly angry. You're picturing other women communicating with him, even visiting. The trust between you deteriorates becasue of the lack of real

Strange that he won't tell you a date to pick him up...  Call the counselor or the case manager, see if they will share that information with you. If you don't know a date, and he won't tell you... maybe he has other arrangements??

You know your guy better than most, use your intuition. If he is a player on the streets he gonna try and be a player from inside, too. Most jail term relationships fall apart when they are released, not while they are in custody. But you already know who he is and that should help you with your decision.

If she has a warrant and enters a detention facility visiting room, she will definitely be held on the warrant until the issuing jurisdiction comes for her.

That is a very good point, but there is another side to it. Inmates that have a job and do actually receive a "pay check", but their pay is miniscule. They make about 12 cents an hour on average. If the phone calls are several dollars each, there are not enough work hours to pay for all of the calls you'd like to get.  If you are mad at him and do not want to pay for the calls, you

This is something that you might have a better feel for, since you know him. He will probably get back to you after he straightens out his problems with his girlfriend.

There is nothing easy about incarceration - for them or for you. Separation is painful but time tends to heal the wounds. Depending upon the crime, the length of the sentence and financial situation weighs accordingly. If you are strong and want to help your inmate get through this in the most comfortable fashion, InmateAid has all of the services that will make that possible. Although we encourage you to engage and remain connected, we also caution you to not