You want to change who your inmate may call? That will NEVER happen. You cannot control the inmate's call list, visitation list or how they spend the money they have on their books. Inmates have privacy rights, too. If you do not want an inmate to contact you, you can call the facility and speak to a counselor or case manager - they will see to it that you are not disturbed.

There must be some hard feelings there. Why did you wait FOUR years? Have you ever attempted to commnicate with him by mail? Letter writing might be the best way for both of you to being an exchange of feelings - about what went wrong between you and how can you fix it.

Your inmates visitation log is covered by the privacy laws. There is no provision where this information will be disclosed without his consent.

Twenty years is a long time. The key to communication is trust. Trust is earned over time. We are not suggesting that there isn't any between you; we are saying that you two need time together to learn to trust. When a man is incarcerated for twenty years, he is used to be told what to do, when to do it and there isn't much room for independence and freedom. So, they become introverted and good at keeping their emotions

Inmates need support. If they are not into you anymore, they will pretend they are so you keep sending them money and have someone to talk to. When their bid is over - they feel free and want to have a fresh start. 

We are former inmates answering these questions. We are not the inmate that you are "speaking to". If you would like to communicate with your inmate like this, click on Letters and Photos and send a sexy picture of yourself and then ask...

It is not the easiest thing for an inmate to do unless their spouse files on the outside first. Your inmate would need a lawyer to handle the court filings. For the inmate to do this, he would need to be able to pay for the legal service of filing since he cannot do it for himself. The institution will NOT do this for him, they do not look at this issue seriously.

Really?? Do you think prison is a dating service. There is ZERO contact with female inmates by male inmates. Unless they are in a building that has the windows facing the interior where maybe they can catch a glance of a female inmate, there is no interaction. Inmate do not have access to the internet, there is no inter-communication between inmates online - if they use email (some places have it), it is a closed system with a very strict analytical keyword

This is a typical behavior of inmates in general. It might be the relationship, or it might just be him - and not that he is seeing or speaking to another woman but oftentimes they get depressed and disconnect from people they love. There is a perception on the inside that the outside world has forgotten us. We would give it a little time, maybe write a letter and address your concerns. He might be feeling helpless and lost, OR

Some people never really learn. They keep repeating old mistakes and will never change. There are very few cases of someone drinking and driving by the walls of prison.