There is no set answer, so we say "maybe". The history of inmates getting released and leaving their significant other almost immediately after the release is a puzzling fact that we are not sure why it is so. But, we know that it is an overwhelmingly high statistic. Depending on how long the incarceration period was will skew the statistics. The short time inmate doesn't have the longevity to become institutionalized. Inmates in long-term incarceration begin to rely on the

Without knowing the facts, we do know that inmates are pretty good at explaining things in a way that always make them the victim rather than the problem. You man has gone in more than once, this puts him in the category of someone that doesn't yet get it. Inmates do not get "screwed over" by their loved ones on the outside, more likely the inmate did something to make that jilted person cynical and vindictive because it is them

He has to want to change. You are not the problem. If you think that you are going to change him, you are wrong. He has now been in the system which makes it easy to get caught up in something else (because they are now watching him more closely) and the future is going to be tougher than before this charge. If you see that he is willing to cut off all ties to his old friends and stop

We really would have no way of knowing the reason, but we would encourage you to call the counselor, case manager or chaplain. They are usually very kind and open to helping.

It's hard to give the advice that we want to give versus the advice you want to hear. Inmates that go in and out of jail are not going to be easy to live with. The incarceration process definitely changes a person but the ones that are going to succeed after release are the ones that have made the conscious decision to change their ways, habits and people they associate with. Justin is not in that category yet. If you

It is not our place to determine whether you are a good girlfriend. You have to be at peace with your decision to stay. If you are going to ride it out until the end with himi, just know there are going to be some rough spots along the way. Be prepared and feel free to write back as often as possible over the coming months if you need questions answered.

Writing letters is sort of a lost art these days - it takes effort. If you were our girl, we would want to hear about everything you're doing. We would really want you to send us sexy pictures of yourself and even share sexy talk or sexy stories to keep our spirits high. We are not trying to be creepy, but he probably misses you and thinks about you all the time. Try relationship stuff where you can make him

This happens more that people know. If it were me, I'd want to know so that in the two years I would be prepared for a life without you. If he cannot stay in your home, he needs to have a plan for where he will go when he's released. If you spring it on him when he's released and he is counting on living there it is going to be a mess. The stress would be overwhelming for him

There are documented cases where the staff at an institution has violated federal law and have sexual contact with an inmate (mostly consensual). However, this never ends well. The inmate gets shipped to an inconvenient location with higher security and less privileges, the staff member will do federal prison time.

You should follow your instincts. You know him better than most - our advice, "believe what you see with your own eyes, not what you hear as the explanation".