This will be tough for both of you. The separation causes many relationships to falter after the first year.

This is a morality question. We know that sort of thing happens from time to time but it is not our role to express what we think is appropriate or not. Anything that could happen at night could happen in the daytime, too.

The information is private and is available regardless of relation without written approval from the inmate to release information.

Maybe there is a logical explanation, one that you should not dismiss. Inmates have no restriction on how many letters they would like to write and send. There are not many excuses for not writing outside of two broken hands and even at that, he could have someone write the letter for him to let you know everything is okay. We have written quite a lot about how inmates try to control their loved ones from the inside,

All of the inmate communication data is private and inaccessible by the general public. You cannot get information on their visitation list, their calling list or who sends in money. If she is calling someone else, she might not be your girl

Inmates privacy is protected, therefore you cannot gain any information on the inmate's phone calls, visitation, who send him mail or money. He will not have Internet access, but there are plenty of ways to continue contact with people on the outside. If you know that he has done this while not locked up, there is a pretty good chance he will doing some of the same while locked up.

You will need to contact the facility staff to get this accomplished

Inmates deal with loneliness in different ways. We have always felt that reading is the "great escape", which is why InmateAid promotes the concept of books, magazines and newspapers to inmates. Also, sending letters and pictures help keep the bond to loved ones strong. Inmates are oftentimes abandoned by their loved ones, shunned for the shame of incarceration. This is when loneliness and helplessness sets in. If you were thrust into a penitentiary with a few years ahead of you

We have no idea what will happen when they are released. You probably know your inmate better than we do, and know their personality better than us. But, there are countless stories where inmates often leave their significant others upon release. You know we can't be certain about the advice we are giving here, but the overwhelming majority of inmates "run" as soon as they are on their feet. An inmate that actually has an affair is even more likely

We get many of these questions from nice ladies like yourself. Our answer is the same, only you know in your heart what you feel. No advice will change that. If he is in for a long stretch of time and you are tired of what he has brought to the relationship in the last four years, then you know what to do. If you are still head-over-heels in love then let that guide you. As long as the relationship